Real Time: Saturday, 16th November 2019.
‘’God wants to send you back to a place that He anointed you to be a deliverer. You have ran out of position because you were trying to escape and God said that I didn’t just call you to be a survivor, I called you to be a deliverer, so you gotta go back to the place where you felt oppressed because you left some favour on the table, there’s some favour on the table and you can’t lay hold of your next until you go back and get the favour you left on your table’’ – Sarah Jakes Roberts. Read that again.
When you don’t have the courage to finish what you start, you will always be starting and will always be receiving ungratifying and unsatisfactory results. Each time something requires more effort, we tend to lose interest or get discouraged very quickly. Only a few selected people with a growing and a growth mindset are aware enough that, the only way to get ahead is to finish what you start.
Let go of an attitude and the habit of unsureness, this behaviour stems from refusing to push and push and push…
‘’Just because some people can do something with little or no training, it doesn’t mean that others can’t do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training.’’ – Carol S. Dweck
You are not born to merely survive but to be anything and everything you wish to be and become.
‘’When we think about ‘Big’, we tend to think it’s hard, difficult, too complicated, too much stress. But that is not the case. It is simply different, but not necessarily harder to dream and think Big. It just requires a different mental disposition, a different framework for dealing with the world and taking execution. You will have to unlearn and relearn the way you approach the world. But it is very doable, not as difficult as you think.’’ – Otoabasi Bassey
Just test this out, just try to transition from your narrow, fixed traits and fixed mindset that you have been trapped in for all these years into a growing and growth mindset and see what happens.
Only when there’s change of mindset from your toxic fixed mindset to a growth mindset in acknowledging, understanding and being fully aware that you need to change what is now not working, will you be released from this spell, we’re trapped, it’s silly and it’s toxic.
You will always be sent back to the same position, circumstances, seasons, situations, relationships, up until you get it, for as long as you don’t get out and step out, for as long as you’re still stuck in what you know, what you’re accustomed to…next year will never be your year, or the one after and the next after that one.
And you know what I have noticed as well (because I had willingly put myself through that), we all start the year with a BANG then along the way, mid-year we start to doubt, as I have mentioned before, the doubt does not just come from nowhere, you’re now too lazy filled with myriad of ways to stop continuing.
This now becomes the time and period when we’re hoping that things will just happen for us, when we’re hoping that the universe will dance to our tune, and then nothing happens and gets to the fall of the year and we start singing that song again; ‘’Next Year Is My Year’’… How, when you’ve done nothing different but repeat same thing over and over?
‘’When you’re wondering why God keeps sending you back to the same place and He says, I’m gonna keep sending you back to that same place until you come out looking like what I thought you were supposed to look like, there’s a more confident version of who you are, there’s a more anointed version of who you are and I’m gonna keep sending you back until you come out looking like what I had in mind. You’re going to go back until you come out ready to go into the next dimension, you’re not ready to go into the next dimension until you have mastered everything that this level is about to teach you.’’ – Sara Jakes Roberts. Read that again.
Isn’t this just like in school, isn’t this just like gaming? You cannot go to a new Grade if you haven’t passed, you cannot go to the next level if you haven’t won and most probably after losing and failing until you tried tackling the game in a more different angle and thoughtful way, so why do you expect that life will be in your favour and just hand you over things without even trying, over and over, differently with an attitude of seeking to learn and grow?
I had been miserable in my life, not quite understanding and accepting the life that stood right in front of me, I was refusing to be average, I always knew that there’s more out there for me, I didn’t have peace of mind because I knew that there has to be more out there for and this is not it and cannot be it. This was haunting me subconsciously as a result of not being happy, of not accepting and refusing to lay on the bed that I had made (through my own choices and decisions), I wanted to redo the bed so much but I just didn’t know how, I wasn’t knowledgeable about the truth that I now know about life.
When you snap out of it and redo your bed, DO NOT redo your bed with the same mindset as it’ll be impossible to redo that bed. The stains on that bed will remain, the smell on that bed will remain. How you redo your bed this time around needs to be completely different, shock yourself, surprise yourself by doing things completely different.
Up until the same thing you’ve been doing exhaust you, you won’t be able to redo your bed.
‘’A situation is supposed to change you for the better and not make you worse. Some people are going back to places that God tried to close the door on but you keep praying the door open and you need God to give you grace to leave and never go back, not just a relationship but to leave a MENTALITY, to leave a MINDSET, to leave a PARADIGM and an IDENTITY’’. – Sarah Jakes Roberts
This is the life changing epiphany I was blessed with, a miracle indeed.
For me, this was the year to feed my mind and soul through reading books, I mentioned this before that this year alone I’ve read so many books I’ve ever read in my life. It’s another thing to read so many books, watch all these motivational and inspirational videos and you sit down with that knowledge and those tools and do nothing, there’s no point really. This year I was just absorbing and feeding each and every bit of thyself, consciously, truthfully and authentically so. Redoing your bed hurts and fills you with so much joy and purpose at the same time, it’s crazy and beautiful at the same time. You go through all the emotions you can think of in the world. Now that I have the tools, the knowledge, strategies needed and the growth mindset, starting things to finish them has been the reason I wake up in the morning, because not only am I in a habit of finishing what I start, I WANT to finish what I started. I think that is more meaningful and important that I YEARN and WANT to finish, accomplish and succeeded. No feeling beats that, that is what happiness is about. I mentioned on Episode 1: Crawling Back that that has been my biggest struggle in my adult life, to start something great with so much interest and enthusiasm but somehow fail to finish, I just couldn’t get through the other side, no matter what. This is a disease and it almost destroyed me. I am still a work in progress and I’m super appreciative of my family and close friends who have stood with me until I found my foot, until I found my purpose. Still a long way to go.
This has been the most awaken year of my adult life. I owe God my life, I owe myself everything.
Remember: Next year can be your YEAR.
This piece was deeply inspired by: Author and Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts, Author and Professor Carol S. Dweck and Writer, Designer and Entrepreneur Otoabasi Bassey.
To Be Continued…